Moving out of home has been a challenge for me due to various personal factors, including recently diagnosed autism/ADHD, health issues, and an unstable income. Additionally, the desire to live independently with a large dog complicates the situation, making it feel almost unattainable. While I appreciate the comforts of my family home—such as our peaceful suburb, the charm of our house, and access to a large kitchen—drawbacks exist. I’ve outgrown the familiar surroundings, most friends have moved away, and the distance from industry hubs limits my opportunities. Despite not paying rent, I often feel that my mental well-being suffers from the situation.
To reclaim a sense of personal space and agency, I transformed my bedroom a few years ago. The room had previously been cluttered with my parents’ old furniture, which didn’t resonate with me. After several discussions, they agreed to let me replace it. I then began searching for furniture and art that reflected my style, a process that took months and involved learning lessons along the way.
Key to the redesign was creating distinct zones within my room, allowing for various activities—working, journaling, and relaxing. I purposely selected smaller furniture pieces to maximise space efficiency while visually enhancing the area. I filled the walls with items that create depth, giving the illusion of a larger room. The result is a vibrant, functional space that feels like me and supports my sensory needs through soft furnishings and ambient lighting.
The makeover has been transformative, allowing me to express my personality and cultivate a sanctuary that mitigates the outside world’s stress. This personalised space has significantly improved my mental health, fostering a sense of stability and creativity that I lacked before. Importantly, it has helped me appreciate my living situation rather than long for an ideal scenario.
I’ve crafted a room that serves both as a retreat and a reminder of who I am. It’s a small world filled with my interests, helping me feel more grounded and connected, ensuring I navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and positivity. Though maintenance is inevitable in the future, the investment in this space is worthwhile; it truly reflects my identity and nurtures my well-being in this chapter of my life.
(Phoebe Thorburn is an autistic writer, cook, and developer of inclusive vegan and gluten-free recipes, currently working on their first multidisciplinary cookbook.)