Katie and Dan Toney faced a significant life decision when they had the chance to shift careers and move 800 kilometres from Queensland to New South Wales. After decades working in the media on the Sunshine Coast, the couple was excited about managing a caravan park in the tiny seaside town of Seal Rocks, which has a mere population of 50 residents. However, they felt a weight of concern, particularly regarding their primary-school-aged children, who had grown up in a close-knit community. Questions about removing their children from what they knew stirred apprehension and a sense of selfishness in their decision-making process.
Despite the uncertainties, Katie noted that many people successfully navigate such transitions for their careers continuously. The change brought a complete upheaval for the couple, as they had to adapt to a new industry and life in a far different environment. They questioned their ability to excel in this new role and relied on a strong commitment to make the most of the opportunity.
Psychologist Amanda Hall states that the stress of relocation often overwhelms individuals due to the complexities involved and the myriad emotions at play. She encourages those grappling with significant decisions to consider their options thoughtfully. For instance, Eli Clarke’s story illustrates the challenges faced by young individuals making similar moves; he relocated from Alice Springs to Sydney at just 16 for a prestigious dance scholarship, leaving behind a supportive network he later came to appreciate more profoundly as an adult.
Hall advises individuals feeling overwhelmed by relocation decisions to seek professional assistance, highlighting tools like a “career decision-making matrix” to assess various factors that play into a move. These factors might include housing costs, distance from loved ones, and work-life balance. Creating a scoring system can provide clarity on whether the relocation aligns with one’s personal priorities.
Despite not having a backup plan, the Toneys embraced their move to Seal Rocks with enthusiasm and commitment. Almost four years later, they are confident in their choice, happy that their children are thriving and finding deeper connections with family and friends, who now make meaningful trips to visit. Their experience has showcased the importance of valuing relationships irrespective of distance.
Similarly, Eli Clarke has found fulfilment in his career after joining Bangarra Dance Theatre, where he celebrates his Indigenous heritage and reconnects with his culture, making regular trips back to Alice Springs to strengthen ties with his roots. This journey reveals that taking risks can lead to profound personal and professional fulfilment.