A woman in her mid-40s has sported short hair for nearly a decade, embracing an androgynous style. Over the past year, she has experimented with vibrant hair colours, such as purple and red, while her short hairstyle highlights her need for hearing aids, which she openly accepts. As she considers seeking new employment, she grapples with the potential negative perceptions about her appearance and disability in a conservative, male-dominated industry.
Eleanor advises that while appearances shouldn’t define one’s capabilities, the reality is that they often do. She urges the woman to reflect on whether altering her look would make her feel less authentic or whether it would empower her to manage how she’s perceived. While presenting oneself differently at work isn’t inherently negative and can highlight other aspects of one’s personality, compromising aspects of identity for professional gains can feel disheartening.
Ultimately, the key question for her is whether growing out her hair and concealing her hearing aids would enhance her self-presentation or diminish her sense of self. Eleanor concludes that maintaining individuality is important, and making choices that feel authentic is essential for long-term fulfilment in both personal and professional life.